Does My Child Have a Mental Health Concern?

By FCPS & Fairfax County Government
Healthy Minds
February 02, 2021

Parenting can be difficult, even under the best of circumstances. Now the coronavirus pandemic has brought major changes to every aspect of our lives – how we live, work, teach, and play – making parenting more stressful. Many of us are worried about how our children are handling the social isolation of distance learning, alongside the usual trials and challenges of growing up.

"Just as you are looking out for your child’s physical health during the pandemic, keep an eye on their mental health too," recommends James M. Gillespie, Healthy Minds Fairfax Director and CSB Youth and Family Services Director. He adds, "Having less contact with friends and family and not being able to do enjoyable activities can increase stress and lead to emotional or mental health concerns in children."

If you are worried about your child, have a talk with them to find out how they are doing. Give them your full attention. Listen carefully, repeat what you heard and ask if you got it right. When children feel heard and understood, they are more likely to share with you.

Notice what is going on with your child. You know your child best.

Here are some signs to look for that may indicate a mental health concern:

  • Becoming more irritable, hyperactive, energetic, fidgety, or aggressive.
  • Excessive sadness, fears, or worries. 
  • A steep drop in grades, getting into trouble at school, or not attending school.
  • Loss of appetite, significant weight gain or loss, lack of sleep, or too much sleep.
  • Withdrawal from activities, family, or friends.
  • Alcohol or drug use.
  • Thoughts of suicide or harming themselves or others – Do not be afraid to ask your children if they are having these thoughts. Your asking will not put those thoughts in their head. Rather, it tells them you care and that you will help keep them safe.


Below are several options for you to speak with a mental health professional. Do not worry about making the wrong choice. Every number leads to someone who can help.

  • Contact your child’s school counselor, school psychologist, school social worker, or school public health nurse.
  • Contact your child’s pediatrician.
  • Call your health insurance company or visit their website to search for a behavioral/mental health provider.
  • Contact the Fairfax-Falls Church Community Services Board (CSB) at 703-383-8500, weekdays from 9 a.m. to 5 p.m.
  • Walk into the CSB’s Merrifield Center any weekday from 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. The location is 8221 Willow Oaks Corporate Drive, Fairfax, VA 22031.  
  • Take a free, confidential online mental health screening and practice talking with your child about mental health concerns by taking a free, online Kognito training. [Though these courses are designed for educators, parents can use the same skills in talking with their own children.]
  • Visit the CSB or Healthy Minds Fairfax websites to get mental health information and local resources.

IF YOUR CHILD IS HAVING A MENTAL HEALTH CRISIS, THESE SERVICES ARE AVAILABLE 24/7 not worry about making the wrong choice. Every number leads to someone who can help.

Make the call today – there's never a wrong time to reach out for help for your child.

Get a printable Does my child have a mental health concern? flyer.

If you or someone you know may be experiencing a mental health challenge or crisis, text HOME to 741741 to reach a crisis counselor, call 1-800-273-8255 to reach the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, or call 911.

The Healthy Minds Blog shares information related to youth mental health and wellness for an audience of parent, educators and community-based providers. Articles include tips and strategies for increasing wellness and resiliency, as well as fostering success at home, at school and in the community.

The Healthy Minds Blog is a collaborative project between Fairfax County Public Schools and the Prevention Unit of the Fairfax County Department of Neighborhood and Community Services. It is part of the Healthy Minds Fairfax (see below) initiative, designed to support emotional wellness in youth and families.

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